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FOREWORD BY Ezhilarasan

We would have met many good and bad people in our life. Some people succeed first and this gives a snow balling effect in their life. And prosperity and happiness fills their life. Like a big banyan tree they give shelter to all who come near or under them.

Unfortunately some others face failure at first in their life. A few fight back and recover. But some face a snow balling effect of negative things and never recover.

Obviously our attitude towards our mistakes and failure in life is very important. You may know that it is very difficult to change the thinking or attitude of other people. But you can change your attitude with a little effort and can stay healthy.

Life is a mixture of happiness and pain or sorrow.

DON'T HOLD BACK ANY HURT FEELING IN YOUR MIND, IT WILL CONTINUOUSLY DAMAGE OR ERODE YOUR SYSTEM?

LET US LEARN NOT TO HURT OTHERS.
LET US ALSO LEARN TO FORGIVE OTHERS WHO HAVE KNOWINGLY OR UNKNOWINGLY HURT US.

An abridged scientific article on this subject is attached below.

Ezhilarasan Venkatachalam

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The Benefits of Forgiveness and How to Cultivate It (TINY VERSION)

Forgive for Good:

August 24, 2017 •
By
Traci Stein, PhD, MPH,
GoodTherapy.org Topic Expert

It is a fact of life that in any sort of relationship with others, we risk being neglected, abused, rejected, lied to, or betrayed in some other way.

Whether due to minor or major transgressions, each of us has been confronted with the tension around whether to forgive someone who has hurt us. *** ***

Yet, the guilty party may never feel guilt or take any responsibility whatsoever. If this is the case, you may wonder what is to be gained by forgiveness.

To answer this question, we must also look at the risks of not forgiving.

THE RISKS OF HOLDING ON TO ANGER

Research over the past two decades has found that ongoing anger, resentment, and hostility are linked to poorer physical and mental health.

It can be extremely difficult to move through these emotions and develop compassion or pity for those who have wronged us or hurt someone we love.

Yet, reaching a place of forgiveness can free one from a virtual prison of negative thoughts and burdensome emotions, which typically only prolong the feelings of anger and suffering generated by the original offense.

THE BENEFITS OF FORGIVENESS

The benefits of being able to forgive are many. Developing forgiveness has been associated with decreased stress, anxiety, and depression, and increased feelings of well-being.

Some studies have found a relationship between dispositional or trait forgiveness and life satisfaction.

One study to date has found trait forgiveness is linked to better relationships with others.
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The interviews revealed three themes related to the perceived negative effects of "refusing to forgive" on mental health. Specifically, refusing to forgive another impacted how participants felt emotionally; had negative effects on mental health, including on cognitive abilities (such as the ability to think clearly); and led to both social and psychological barriers to their own growth (feeling unable to move forward).

Among other things, participants reported unforgiveness contributed to feelings of anger, guilt, or bitterness, left them feeling drained, and could lead to carrying bitterness into subsequent relationships. ***  *** . In addition to these benefits, several participants said their relationships improved after adopting an attitude of forgiveness.

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THE BOTTOM LINE

The researchers concluded the study that gave the message that forgiveness is healthier and more rewarding than holding on to anger, bitterness, and desire for revenge is worth paying attention to, however.

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Remember you cannot heal another person, nor can you make them kinder, more self-aware, or more empathic. That said, you are also not responsible for the choices others make. Remembering these things can help you detach from the need to change others or how they feel about you.

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